**Pattern Name:** Missing Conversations
**Introduction:** Missed understanding comes mostly from missed conversations.
**Illustration:**
**CONTEXT:**
Social systems are understood and lived in conversations and stories. Our view of the world is mostly our very own story book.
**PROBLEM:** **Incomplete stories are too often the source of unhappiness and even tragedy.**
**Forces:** Available time Distance apart Level of trust
**THEREFORE (SOLUTION):**
**Use tools and methods that help locate missing conversations before it is too late.**
**Actions:**
Talk with people--listen to them. See what they see.
Draw diagrams together.
**Consequences:**
Better relationships. Better outcomes. Better neighborhood.
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